For those of you who haven’t followed my pursuit of losing the final 5 pounds by abstaining from wine, let me just say that two weeks turned into three, and just today I woke up, weighed myself and saw the magical number. Eureka!
But I have a confession to make. I allowed my husband to side-track me. It was on Day 18 that I caved.
Last weekend my husband was offering up home made sofrito (intense tomato sauce) cooked from his newly picked tomato crop. It seemed plain rude not to oblige. It was a simple Mediterranean menu — some whole wheat fusilli pasta topped with sofrito and grated Parmesan, along with a wonderful salad. We’re fine until now. However, then, to complete this rustic dinner, he wanted to serve a very appropriate vino. So, like any appreciative spouse, I said thank you.
But, how to manage breaking my abstinence without feeling a bit, well, guilty?
One of the comments last week from Jane suggested that for her, losing weight was about calories in and calories out. Forget the drinking, no drinking thing. So, with that in mind, I embarked on my “research”.
Giving Myself Permission
I gave myself permission to have one glass (5 ounces) on Saturday and again on Sunday. I got on the scale Monday morning and had lost another half pound. What’s this about? The new Wine Diet? Not! I’m convinced that it wasn’t just what I did, but rather, being mindful about it — one glass only, along with watching my caloric intake. Not too much pasta on Saturday night or steak on Sunday, so I could enjoy and savor my evening glass with each flavorful meal. I kept up the exercise, too.
Will I go back to drinking nightly? Not just yet, but maybe later. Getting the balancing act right is important to me.
Some would say I’m depriving myself and putting too much emphasis on wine. I’m taking the joy out of that second glass. The truth is, it’s individual. For instance, Julie, my exercise guru, always gains weight the day after she has a glass of wine. But, as the discussion pointed out in last week’s post, it’s not just exercise OR drinking/eating less, it’s the combination of being active AND eating less, something we all know, and that research bears out time and again.
So, I’ve decided to do just that. Think about the amount I drink and the circumstances around it. This is what I call being mindful. That is, being attentive to what’s going on — a celebration, the end of the day with my husband in the kitchen, sitting around the table with friends, or de-stressing.
Habits take time to change…at least 21 days the literature says. I say 21 times whatever decade you’re in, because old habits without dramatic need are the hardest to change. I don’t have the drama of huge disease alerts looming over my head – cancer, diabetes or heart disease. I’m facing my last decade before “old age” sets in (defined as 70 by some researchers), and like many people with a big milestone coming, I just want to feel fit and healthy. My personal best.
What about you? What’s your plan? Please post yours below.
If I can do it, you can, too!